I spent some time on a very long bus journey reading an interview* with a Hollywood actress. And one tiny sentence really stood out for me, it was a response to the unspoken code of the whole interview i.e. "you are alone and 40, what did you do wrong?" she said "I guess I'm a late bloomer."
I've been thinking a lot about the idea of late bloomers, those who reach milestones, ways of thinking later than society dictates. For example, not having done certain things by the time they are thirty or eighteen.
I have friends who are obsessed with the fact they are turning thirty soon, literally feeling like there is nothing left! And I think it's such weird way to live your life.
We all need motivators and use our relationships to check where we are in life, but essentially as long as we are not wasteful with our lives, it's ok to take our time. I think we reach ways of thinking or milestone events when we are ready to, and not before. I know people from school who have been married, divorced and are onto their third child, while I can still only just about look after myself! I still paint my fingernails in rainbows, get too drunk too quickly, and stand too close to the speakers at gigs. And I don't think our lives are any more or less valid because of it. It took me long and hard walks along the desert to get to where I am now and I can't help but feel that's what it is about, long and varied journeys.
That and not letting our hearts die. Maybe it's watching The Breakfast Club a million times, but I thrive on adventure and discovery. We all still need new adventures, don't we? And everything should be an adventure, even getting older or being a late bloomer. Because we learn something and we're all lucky to be here, right?
*Believe me, I was reading trash!
I can't remember where photo is from, sorry
P.S It's safe to read this post as the rantings of a person driven crazy by the thought of getting older and being in a relationship with its ups and downs.
